Monday, October 4, 2010

Seven Myths Single Women Believe

This article on Boundless caught my eye today. Seven Myths Single Women Believe, by Suzanne Hadley. If you're a woman and you're single, I would strongly encourage you to read it. There is truth in this article.       
The lies we believe:
1. God will give me a husband when I'm ready.

  "...many single women believe that procuring a spouse is somehow performance based. If I were just godly enough, the Lord would give me a husband."

2. God views me more as a useful tool than a beloved child.

"It's true that God may set us apart for a season of singleness, but that doesn't mean He is indifferent to our dreams."

3. When it's the right guy, I'll just know.

"Too many couples over spiritualize the decision of whom they marry. Instead of realizing that God leads us by providing wisdom and allowing us to make our own choices, those couples wait for a 'mystical experience' that will tell them what to do."

4. When I get married, then my life will begin.

“A desire to be a wife and mother is good, but it does not let us off the hook from living fully right now.”

5. Marriage will or will not meet my deepest needs.

“Each view contains some truth. God created woman for man as a remedy for loneliness (Genesis 2:18). And God's grace is sufficient for every circumstance (2 Corinthians 12:9). But marriage alone cannot satisfy a woman's deepest needs. Sarah says: "A very wise lady once told me that she has had her loneliest times since she has been married." Neither can our relationship with Jesus meet the needs that He intended other humans to satisfy.”

6. There must be something wrong with me. If I could just figure out what it is, I could fix it and guys would start showing interest.

“The truth is, most of the things I suspect are lacking in me, fall under the category of charm and beauty. Scripture says, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). The things I should be concerned about improving are spiritual in nature. Am I submitting to Christ? Am I manifesting the fruit of the Spirit? Do I have a gentle and quiet spirit? The right kind of man will be attracted to these qualities.”

7. The older I get, the less likely it is that I will find someone.

“As you pass the average marrying age, it can be tempting to panic. It's helpful to remember Paul's words in Romans 11:36: "For from him and through him and to him are all things." All things. As you cultivate godly attitudes and avoid damaging lies, you allow the Lord to pour out the things He has for you. That way, when the right guy comes along, you'll be ready.”

To find out more read the whole article on


  1. Thanks for sharing this Suzanna - this fits what I feel a lot.

  2. Very nice!! Lana C.


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